Preparing for Pregnancy
Updated: May 22
* SPOKEN WORD *
(Bonus suggestion listed at the very end is currently only available in the written format)
My hope for the present and future is that all newborns arrive on earth through a planned pregnancy. It's best we view our bodies as holy temples and ensure supreme condition prior to conception. The health of the mother and the father at point of conception and during pregnancy sets a wellness trajectory in place for the baby-to-be.
Infants born from temples that are neglected and disrespected have a high probability of producing devastating results ranging from difficult deliveries to diagnosable medical conditions.
At the age of eight, I knew without a shadow of a doubt that I would not give birth to children. Family and friends always noted I would change my mind. Twenty-eight years passed from my initial realization and at no point did I waver.
I noticed how parents seemed to loose their independence, individuality, and identity in the name of their children. Selfishly, I always wanted to preserve these three words and there meanings for myself. I rested in peace knowing our planet struggles with overpopulation issues and took comfort that I was doing my part.
For as long as I can remember, I've viewed pregnancy and delivery as traumatic events. One is literally growing another human within their body. The internal pressure that's created on the vital organs can't be argued. Aches, pains, soreness, and discomforts are foreseeable. Heartburn, gas, constipation, and hemorrhoids are likely. Morning sickness is probable. Some bodies, structurally the hips, are just not created to labor, resulting in surgical removal of newborns. Cesarean section wound healing does not always go according to the doctors hopes and dreams. Post delivery mood alterations, pelvic floor issues, latching and breastfeeding difficulties, and infections are serious realities too many face.
Though I distanced myself from the idea of birthing children, I've enjoyed supporting the desiring mother-to-be. From 2008 to 2012, I regularly worked in hospitals as a nutritionist in labor & delivery, the newborn nursery, high risk obstetrics, and on occasion floated to assist the neonatal intensive care unit. From 2012 to the present, I support mothers, fathers, and families in my private practice.
For all the humans out there who feel the exact opposite as I do; knowing they were put on this planet to parent, this expression is for you. Please find my best recommendations to support you and your family through this life altering process called parenthood. It's said the perfect moment in time for conception will never present itself but do know the more ducks you have in a line the better you can expect your outcomes.
(1) If this is your first pregnancy, wonderful! If not, make sure at least a full calendar year has passed from your previous delivery as your body needs time to heal and restore.
(2) How old are you? Greater than 35 years of age poses additional risk to you and your baby.
(3) A multivitamin mineral supplement for pregnancy should be consumed religiously and daily for a nice duration of time prior to conception. *Discuss with your OBGYN regarding potential additional supplementation of iron, vitamin C, folate, zinc, calcium, magnesium, iodine, and vitamin D.
(4) The father-to-be also needs a multivitamin daily. *Discuss with OBGYN male supplementation of selenium, zinc, vitamins C and E.
(6) It's said we're a collection of the five people we associate with most. Be sure your core tribe brings out the very best in you and vice versa.
(7) Get your daily allowance of sleep without fail.
(8) Nourish your being with organic foods that were hunted, gathered, and/or fished for on your behalf.
*Diets are not recommended unless medically prescribed.
*Conception is not recommended with disordered eating (anorexia or bulimia).
*Avoid unpasteurized, raw milk and uncooked eggs, and foods made from them (homemade eggnog, etc.).
*Avoid unpasteurized juice and cider.
*Avoid raw fish and shellfish (including sushi).
*Avoid seafood that present with high mercury levels (tuna, swordfish, marlin, orange roughy, tilefish/white snapper, shark, king mackerel, escolar).
*Avoid undercooked meats and poultry.
*Avoid prepared meats like hotdogs and deli meats.
*Avoid soft cheese (brie, camembert, etc.).
*Avoid salad made in a store (ham, etc.).
(10) Keep your chemical exposure to a minimum.
(11) Abstain from drugs and alcohol, including caffeine.
(12) Express gratitude daily.
(13) Make self-care your top priority.
(14) *Avoid electric blankets and hot showers/baths.
(15) Physical activity is essential daily. We often have a lovely routine to care for our teeth (brush, floss, & mouthwash), hair (wash & brush), and skin (shower & moisturize) but neglect the deeper layers of the body, mind, and soul with a lack of movement.
(16) Your future self will thank your past self if you develop a dedicated yoga practice, including movement, breathwork, and meditation. Best to develop your routine and concentration now when you have less responsibilities and you're home is more quiet!
(17) Your weight plays a big part in your risk during pregnancy and delivery. It also plays a big part in the future health of your child. I would recommend conception when your body mass index (BMI) notes your weight to be normal or on the low end of overweight again related to BMI. *Note BMI is not an appropriate measure of health for weightlifters; those presenting with what would be defined as an abnormal amount of muscle mass for the average. *Conception is not recommended when underweight or obese.
(18) When all your ducks are in-line make sure you have a beautiful story to share regarding your conception!
(19) You have increased nutritional needs during pregnancy. Understand the amount of weight you personally need to gain during each trimester of your pregnancy to remain healthy. Do your best to meet your needs and to not exceed recommendations as your risk is too linked to this number.
(20) Moisturization decreases signs of aging and stretch marks.
(21) If you're going to watch shows and/or movies, stick with comedies ONLY as the baby can feel your emotions. Let the child know you're happy NOT shocked, nervous, scared, or angry to name a few sensations that can arise during screen time.
(22) Attempt to make all of your interactions positive and peaceful. Again, your child can feel your emotions.
(23) Initiate estate planning or update plans to account for the new member of the family!
(25) Finally, never loose sight of your inner child.
May the force be with you on your journey into parenthood! Should you ever need additional assistance, Maggie Poppins is easy to reach!
Peace, Love, & Everlasting Protection!
Maggie Fekete, E-RYT, CHC, BCHHP
Experienced-Registered Yoga Teacher
Certified Health Coach
Board Certified Holistic Health Practitioner
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*Bonus suggestion (not yet included within SPOKEN WORD): Early on in your planning, I would recommend contacting an astrology expert to help you determine best case scenarios regarding compatibility for your future family! For one example, a taurus (myself born on May 10th) and a scorpio (my father born on November 3rd) are said from an astrological perspective to have compatibly. This reality, which we have both found true, has made for calm waters as we sail through this life together. Planning your delivery date is not an easy task but I feel individuals desiring to be parents should put considerable effort into this style of conception planning!