The Highest Yoga...LOVE
Updated: Nov 3, 2020
[ *SPOKEN WORD* added 5.30.20 ]
I just finished with an amazing read and I must share my notes with you! When I was younger and wanted to avoid reading a book, I would purchase CliffsNotes. My MaggieNotes are not meant for you to avoid reading The 5 love LANGUAGES The Secret to Love That Lasts, but rather to inspire your purchase, borrow, or rental sooner rather than later. Within the category of Self Help, this text is by far my favorite. As the title suggests, this work of art covers the topic of love profoundly, which I consider to be the highest form of yoga. The expressions can be applied to absolutely everyone. Regardless of your current romantic situation, I bet you have a handful of people that you truly love. I'm sure you have friends you love, family, and if you're very lucky someone special.
Aside from the "honeymoon phase" where love feels and appears to be an addiction, love is always a choice we make daily. If we're going to actively choose to love a select group of individuals within our lives, why not love them in the very best way possible?! If we're going to accept love from others, why not simply request this love in a manor we can best utilize?!
The author and counselor, Gary Chapman, explains how best to love and be loved. He believes our deepest emotional need is the need to feel loved. I wholeheartedly trust Chapman has provided the secrets to establishing and maintaining healthy relationships. Through his years of experience he discovered that as a race we speak in 5 different love languages...
Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, & Physical Touch
He explains that these love languages are as different as speaking English, Spanish, French, Japanese, & Russian. If I find myself trying to make friends with an individual who speaks only French and I only English, we will have serious limitations to where this friendship can take us. No different than if I'm trying to make friends with someone who's primary love language is Receiving Gifts and mine is Quality Time. It doesn't matter how many gifts I receive, I will feel little to no love, as what matters most to me is Quality Time. Receiving Gifts is fifth in line for how I feel loved. It's not that I can't appreciate a wonderful gift but one would have to put in a considerable amount of time and effort to really wow me in this department and more than likely the gift will result in being a drop in my love bucket.
Chapman discusses love tanks as a similar concept to a gas tank. If our tank is empty we can't expect to get anywhere good! When our love tank is full we feel appreciated, understood, and most importantly loved. When we're given nothing or expressions of love outside our primary language we often feel undervalued, misunderstood, empty, and most importantly unloved. Tension runs high in relationships when one feels these negative ways.
The most important lesson is to know your primary love language and the language of those you care about most. When you have expressions of love for another be sure to use their primary love language so that you can help fill and maintain their tank most efficiently. If there's a love language you don't speak well but desperately need to, the good news is languages can be learned! Where there's a will, there's a way! The question becomes is the person worth your time and energy in learning a new language? Only you can answer that question!
*Have you made a commitment to someone but the magic is now gone?
*Is everything good in your relationships but you know they could be better?
*Do you want to experience the highest yoga, love after the honeymoon phase, love after the addiction wears off? Love that you choose everyday because you want to not because your body says you need to!
*The 5 love LANGUAGES The Secret to Love That Lasts is a quick and easy read by my standards!...Have you already secured your copy? What are you waiting for...your soulmate to fall into your lap? I assure you, you'd be better off reading this beautiful publication first!
Wishing you and everyone you care about most...full love tanks!